If what's for you, won't go by you is the answer to our accomplishments in life, then if I chose to stand in the middle of an open field during a thunder storm and become struck by lightening, does that then mean being struck by lightening was my destiny, or simply my stupidity. While my friend believes in what's for you won't go by you, I simply believe the things that are for you will be presented to you in different forms and choosing or rejecting opportunities and circumstances is a concsious decision.