Here is a list of behaviours which are considered by definition to be abuse:
Door slamming, kicking or punching holes in walls, fist shakingfist pounding, throwing objects, mimicked throwing of objects.
Threats creating terror or extreme fear of physical harm or,Life-style/security - innuendo/threats ("I earn the money and keep a roof over your head!") financial asset control to create dependenceThreatening or aggressive body stance and gestures, disrespect for 'personal body space''The Look', The silent treatment or unanswered questionsPessured decision makingFacial Glaring, distainful smirkingAudible, annoyed-sounding "Sighing"Snide remarks "Can't you take a joke?" insultsMaking you feel guilt about things you have no control over.False accusation, fault-finding, nit-pickingMaking a mess and failing to clean it upIsolating/alienation from our support groups or familyIssuing orders without giving reasons
Falsely-stated expertise/talent/knowledgeNon-performance of dutiesInterrogation of whereabouts, spending or intentions. Commiting our time/resources without our consentSocial exclusion, gossiping, exploitationLack of credit for effortsTreating you differently - 'When there are witnesses'Disproportionate allocation of assetsDisplay of weapon(s) to intimidateAbandonment/stranding in dangerous locations Displayed generosity to create 'appearances' which make you uncomfortableSulking, walking out, provoking guilt and turning the subject to his grievancesCriticizing, Witholding or delayed medical treatment. Cornering you during arguments to impede your leaving.Failure to consider common-sense consequences to others of his behaviourChanged expectations or unrealistic goalsettingLies, including omission of needed informationEye-rolling, 'snippy shoulder-shrug' responses, the "hrumph response, 'spit-out' responseswhispering to others or mumbled below-hearing level criticismRequesting information about us from others rather than to usFinger poking/pointingIrresponsibility of other people's possessionsPretending to fire imaginery weapons (finger/thumb reenact gun use)Failure to consider your worries and concernsLack of respect for different opinionsPublic humiliation, ridiculing - often at unfortunate circumstancesSwearing, name-calling, nationality/occupation, age/disability mimicking/mockingHumiliation at lack of knowledgeDiscrepancy in treatment of children, corruption/enticement/coercion into illegal or sexual activities. Be aware of the "drop the ball' abuser instigating situations then abandoning them leaving us to clean up the messLateness or non-arrival causing distressReckless behaviour meant to scarePossessiveness/JealousyInappropriate show of tears to appear overly reprimanded or portray insincere apologyCutting a deal: "If you__, then I'll___"Selecting weaker targets: Picking on Women, Children, ElderlyBluffing ThreatsThrowing 'tantrums'

Well, we are stuck at home today. Crystal has a nasty bladder infection and anitibiotics to take. Our experience yesterday was quite interesting. After daycare crystal was quite anxious and upset because she couldn't go to the bathroom. So off we trudge to the emergency room at the hospital. There we first go to the wrong line and have to go back to find the right line, then the people who pulled in after us in the emergency parking line are now in front of us at the emergency registration desk. So we wait, and wait, and wait, finally it's our turn, then some old guy budges in front of us to pick up forms for his wife. Ok, now this is just a bit annoying, after all couldnt they have had the pick up forms thing somewhere else. So then we get our pink form, during which time we listen to the routine line about the walk in clinic, which I purposedly avoided due to the fact I thought they might have to do some type of procedure to crystal.

Finally in emergency, they want crystal to pee, now the reason we are here is becasue crystal can't pee, because in her words it hurts so much the pee is afraid to come out. So, we wait in the bathroom while crystal tries to make the pee come out. Nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, finally a drop in the bucket so to speak, unfortunately not enough, But we get to see a dr anyway, only now the emergency room and the whole hospital, paramedics, security staff and even the parking lot attendant are invovled in a mock code orange (bio harzard) major trauma practice. Sooooo, we sit and wait for another 45 minutes. Finally we get a perscrption for anitbiotics, some cream for crystal and the oppportunity to go home.

Crystal has a new piano book, a beginner-beginner book, something more appropriate for her age. She seems to be quite enjoying piano now as she can actually play the songs in this book. We have two new i spy challenge big books which are keeping the rest of us busy.

Well, I was in Meadow Lake today. Glad to say the roads on the way there and back were not at all like they were in Swift Current, where the snow and blowing snow prompted a no travel recommended warning. It was actually quite a nice drive today. And the meeting only lasted until 3 so that was alright.

well, valentine's day was interesting, I got a rose, candles, sandwiches, nanimo bars and other desserts and they were all from work.

Organized another successful event today, a Business Builder's Luncheon with the Premier and then a press conference later regarding the National Aboriginal Music and Arts Festival to be held in Prince Albert in October. Since I am on the organizing committee, I will be involved in all aspects of the festival. Should be fun

Meet Gribble and NoName our new pets. They are Gerbils. I really wanted the Dragon Lizard but furry won out over having to feed flies to something on a regular basis.

Well you asked for it.

it's been so cold I had to something exciting to heat it up. My hair is now a very reddish/copper/audburn slightly orange color. I had quite a bit of fun with it today, as I organized a business builders luncheon with the Leader of the Liberal Party of Saskatchewan. Maybe my hair will be glowing in the background during the news tonight.

wow, it's been such a long time I forgot how great it is. High speed internet that is, yah, everything loads now, everything works now, yippee.

ho ho, ho ho, it's off to work we go. Or in this case it's off to work Arianna goes. Today is her first day at DQ. And it's just a mere -24 outside.

looks like a cold week -18 to -20 to at least thursday, maybe friday will be warmer.

crystal has a birthday party to go to tommorrow, I suspect that will be fun for. Arianna is all excited because she may be going to Nova Scotia in March with the air cadets and she is supposed to be starting work at dairy queen on tuesday.

Well, I managed to organize the largest business builders luncheon in the history of the Chamber. The mayors state of the city address was highly successful and profitiable for us, with over two hundred people in attendance and all of the media available. And we organized it without any disasters or hiccups. AS the mayor stated at the end "I felt like a rock star" lol